Apr 18th

After All These years I Now Understand WHY!

By Daveyone
NARCISSISTS AND EMPATHS: THE EGO DYNAMIC April 16, 2014 · by Kimberly Saeed · in Empaths and Sensitives, 


Narcissism, Narcissistic Behaviors, Surviving Narcissistic Abuse, The Gift in the Curse. · opposites There’s a lot of buzz in the media today about Empaths/Highly Sensitives and Narcissists attracting to one another. One popular theory is that Narcissists prey on Empaths and Sensitives because of their overly giving nature. While that is primarily true, there is another reason that goes even deeper, and it has to do with ego. Narcissists First, let’s consider the definition of egotistical as it relates to Narcissists in general: adjective Excessively conceited or absorbed in oneself; self-centered. Arrogance, selfishness, greed, a sense of entitlement to whatever one wants. Too much ego can lead to serious problems with treating people as means to ends: such people (i.e., Narcissists) feel entitled to do whatever it takes to get what he/she wants. This leads to abuses of ends/means reasoning (using other people to fulfill ego’s wants). It’s no surprise that the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (DSM-IV) states that people with the disorder: have a grandiose sense of self-importance have a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations are interpersonally exploitative, i.e., taking advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends Empaths Empaths do possess an ego to some degree, but don’t operate solely from ego as Narcissists do. For an Empath, ego is experienced primarily in judging others and feelings of anger/resentment. These ego-driven emotions are usually incited in the Empath/HSP after witnessing acts of cruelty and hatred, interactions which they consider unfair or one-sided, and similar incidents. Empaths operate predominately from love, humility, and giving. They have a natural capacity for healing and teaching others. However, until they learn how to responsibly use those gifts, they are often taken advantage of…not only by romantic partners, but people in general. Many Empaths don’t realize what they are, and go through life feeling used and unfulfilled. The Empath persona encompasses several personality types and traits and can include: INFJ ENFJ Melancholic Introvert Intuitive (**These are the main types, and listed simply as a matter of reference) The Magnetic Attraction The Empath’s soul purpose is to facilitate healing in others. Unfortunately, they usually ignore their own needs in doing so. They have a propensity to feel what’s going on outside of them more so than what’s inside. In general an empath is non-violent, non-aggressive and leans more towards being the peacemaker. Any area filled with disharmony creates distress in an Empath. If they find themselves in the middle of a conflict, they will strive to resolve the situation as quickly as possible, if not avoid it all together. Because of these natural tendencies, the unaware Empath often finds themselves staying in a relationship with a toxic personality for too long. Further, Empaths often have a track record of developing codependent behaviors in childhood to deal with the overwhelm of unfairness in the world and to please others, which they usually carry into their adult relationships…until a soul crises happens where they are forced into awakening. eye-e1394889808871 Empaths operate from their authentic self, even if they aren’t aware they are an Empath. Essentially, they associate with the life force, healing, and the urge to create what was not there before, such as when they try to “fix” people or situations, or help others heal and awaken. Narcissists, on the other hand, don’t have an authentic self. If they had one as a child, it was stifled by ego as a defense mechanism.


Their ego demands attention to its hurts, traumas and concerns in a way that insists upon separation and control. This prevents their ability to bond with other people, and explains why their whole concept of reality consists of fulfilling the demands of their ego. Therefore, they use people without concern for the pain and trauma they are inflicting upon them. When the Empath and Narcissist enter into a relationship together, it creates a magnetic, yet vibrationally dysfunctional union because the Empath gives to the point of complete and utter exhaustion. They will give every last effort to “fix” the Narcissist and the relationship, but it never happens. The Narcissist cannot assess another’s perspective because ego doesn’t allow that, thus there is no motive for the Narcissist to change. In fact, attempts to “help” the Narcissist and draw attention to their dysfunctional behaviors often make the Narcissist worse because it contradicts the cravings of their ego. Confused QuoteIt also profoundly disorients the Empath, who is often destroyed by the relationship. However, it’s at this point that the unaware Empath experiences a soul crisis and comes to realize what they are. Though the experience with the Narcissist is painful and overwhelming, the Empath usually learns their soul lessons and undergoes an awakening, whereas the Narcissist remains the same. Did you discover you are an Empath after surviving a toxic relationship with a Narcissist or other disordered personality? Tell us in the comments below!

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     I am sorry to say I witnessed this with my children, my eldest would elect to see me on contact (visitation) days whilst the younger would be with held. I was surprised to find them arguing on one occasion which was unusual, when I questioned them I learned that on days my youngest did not arrive he was rewarded with extravagant gifts whilst the eldest was disregarded. 

Parental Alienation & other Child abuse awareness/prevention
 
Apr 3rd

Judges call for security in family court rooms after spate of attacks by angry parents Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/ne

By Daveyone

  • Family courts are the most 'sensitive and volatile' yet poorly protected
  • One judge was threatened by angry father hurling antisemitic abuse
  • Sometimes judges are in the courtroom alone with a parent

By ELEANOR HARDING  

Family judges across the country fear attack in court by angry parents because of inadequate security, it emerged last night.

A number have spoken out following several incidents of mothers and fathers attacking judges in court – including one female judge who was seriously injured.

They have taken the unusual step of speaking out in the hope of preventing further violence at the Principal Registry of the Family Division (PRFD) in central London as well as district courts around the country.

Judges told of parents shouting threats at them, as well as throwing books and cups. Read whole item ; http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2252733/Judges-security-family-court-rooms-spate-attacks-angry-parents.html 
 



Davey says;
In the near history we scoffed at the antics of the KGB in Soviet Russia and before that the Gestapo of Nazi Germany but for those of us who have had first hand experience of the secret closed family courts  this is how you feel you have been treated. If the press and public were privey to their workings you would be suprised by the sex discrimination bias and incompitence which if occured in view of criminal courts public gallaries would see many so called legal professionals being struck of and court reporters being degraded as scapegoats! 

Judges, barristers solicitors and the rest hide behind the Hitler inspired phrase ' in the best interest of the children' whilst they use this to say these courts are 'sensitive and volitile' whilst taking your parental rights away so why not use Child A, Child B, Family XYZ, to protect those involved after all they called Peter Donelly 'Baby P' for weeks after he died so who were they trying to protect? I do not condone violence or anti semitism but what would you do when your children are at risk? and all the judges I came before were Jewish so where is their emapthy?

Feb 12th

FOCUS ON JUSTICE in NY Feb19th 2014 @DaveyoneF @BoycottFamilylw RT & SHARE

By Daveyone

PROTEST the broken Family Law System and biased/incompetent Judges in NY

NYS Attorney General Eric Schneiderman will be speaking at an event at John Jay College in Manhattan at a lecture "life after exoneration" We feel that this would be a great place to protest and get our message out. It is honorable that the Attorney General is speaking at this lecture so I ask that anyone joining us show respect. We will be sending out a press release and hiring a video person and photographer. The press may be there covering the event as well. Please bring a sign or in box me and I will bring one for you.

We will be leaving Long Island at around 6:30 AM from Smithtown. If you want a ride, again, please send me a message

Guest Speaker : Linda Kase Gottlieb

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Operation: Correction NOW!

February 19, 2014 there will be an event at John Jay College in Manhattan where Attorney General Schneiderman is supposed to speak. The Facebook page for the event is "Life after Exoneration".

My suggestion is that we show up and protest about the injustice in the Family and Divorce courts. This should be a sympathetic venue and audience for our cause. It is an event that might be covered by the media or we can try to get media coverage. We do not want to upstage the worthy cause of the exoneration of the innocent. The incarceration of the innocent is morally reprehensible. But "abducting"children away from parents and severing the ties between a parent and a child are morally reprehensible also. I feel we need to start taking the message to the public in many ways and this is one of them. let's try to encourage parents and activists to be at the event. Thank you.
 

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Jan 20th

UNITE to FIGHT against INJUSTICE in 2014!

By Daveyone















ALL individuals, groups and organisations should work together and fight the same FOE;


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            We must succed in 2014